Inclusive coaching asks people to show up fully. But not everyone has been given a space where that feels possible. For many coaches, identity shapes how safe it feels to speak, to share, and to be seen. And while coaching is built on trust and presence, belonging is not always guaranteed.
The question of whether and how a coach can show up as their full selves lives in the back of their mind, shaping how they enter a conversation before exchanging a single word. And virtual sessions, where nonverbal cues are harder to read, add to the complexity.
That quiet calculation, deciding what to share and what to hold back, can feel isolating, even in a profession built on connection. But when you create a space for people to belong — coaches with diverse sexual and gender identities across different cultures — and their allies, they can connect, exchange lived experiences, and build the confidence to show up more fully in their coaching practice.
Inclusive coaching is something we as coaches must intentionally create to empower individuals to become their best selves and champion a thriving society.
What Does Identity in Coaching Look Like?
Identity in coaching shapes how safe, visible, and supported a coach feels in both their personal experience and professional practice.
In a global profession, it’s easy to assume we understand a person’s experience based on regional proximity, friendships, or relationships. But identity does not exist in a vacuum. Culture, geography, and social norms shape how people are seen, heard, and supported.
Experiences can vary dramatically from region to region. This is especially true for coaches with diverse sexual and gender identities. The reality of having a gender-diverse identity in North America differs from that in Germany, Spain, South America, and other regions in terms of safety, visibility, and acceptance.
Inclusivity in coaching requires us to create safe spaces to explore what it means to be a coach with a sexual or gender-diverse identity in the region where the coach lives, and how local social norms impact their lives and coaching practices.
When you hear directly from coaching peers around the world, it builds cultural humility in a way theory alone cannot. Discussing how expectations, social norms, and safety concerns shape the coaching relationship and addressing questions such as how a coach navigates sessions when their identity — or their client’s — may be at odds with local norms, empowers coaches to feel a sense of belonging.
Why Allies Are Essential to Inclusive Coaching
Allyship is a critical part of inclusive coaching. Often, people wait to interact with members representing diverse communities until it affects them personally. But no one advances DEIB work alone; allies from outside these communities are essential to help create environments where safety and inclusion are shared responsibilities — not individual burdens.
Allies are central to transforming the coaching industry and ensuring it is a safe, inclusive experience for everyone, regardless of cultural background. Many coaches come in with good intentions, but some people also fear getting it wrong.
You will make a mistake. It will be uncomfortable, and you will feel embarrassed. Most importantly, you will survive it. What matters is how you respond and continue learning.
Learning happens in those uncomfortable moments, and when you belong to a community designed to support learning about identity in coaching, your peers will help guide you as you repair your mistake and move forward.
Kaleidoscope: An ICF Community for Identity in Coaching
Community is central to coaching, but for many coaches across sexual and gender identities, that sense of community has not always been easy to find. Many coaches are not just looking for professional development. They want a space to connect with others who understand the importance of identity in coaching, the importance of hearing and sharing lived experiences, and a space where they do not have to explain themselves.
ICF created the Kaleidoscope Member Resource Group (MRG) to meet that need, offering a global space for connection, learning, and belonging.
The Kaleidoscope MRG, like all ICF MRGs, welcomes allies who do not identify as gender-diverse to join and learn what allyship looks like and how to become an ally. Kaleidoscope leaders host “Ask Me Anything”-style sessions, which invite brave curiosity and answer questions like, “I don’t doubt that this identity exists, but I genuinely don’t understand what it means. Can you help me?”
Members of the community welcome these types of questions when they’re asked in the right context and with respect. These are intentional spaces where curiosity is welcomed and learning is shared, not expected or demanded. Sometimes learning is simple but meaningful. That openness, in turn, helps allies gain language, understanding, and the courage to speak up in other settings, whether that’s a client call, a team meeting, or a chapter event.
Why ICF Chose the Name Kaleidoscope
The name Kaleidoscope reflects the diversity and complexity of identity across cultures. It allows for a more inclusive and globally relevant way to represent the community.
While North America and Europe widely use letters to represent gender and sexual diversity, individuals in other regions avoid using acronyms or labels. In some countries, acronyms can put a person’s safety at risk or even be interpreted as illegal.
What the Kaleidoscope Community Offers Members
MRG leaders drive the content and priorities for community events, ensuring they are truly responsive to member needs and interests. Monthly programming for learning and connection varies but includes sessions such as:
1. Safety Couch Sessions
Leaders lightly guide the session by opening with a prompt or theme. The format is flexible and designed so that participants can say, “This is what I really need to talk about today” — and the group adjusts accordingly.
In these spaces, members have shared deeply personal stories of being misgendered or misunderstood in professional settings, navigating coaching contracts where their identity may not be safe or welcome, and balancing personal authenticity with very real concerns about safety, visibility, and livelihood. These spaces are not about fixing. They are about being seen, heard, and supported.
2. Member Spotlights
Kaleidoscope also hosts member spotlight sessions for coaches to share their personal and professional journeys, highlighting how they moved from ACC, PCC, and MCC, and how their identities shape their coaching work, business models, and advocacy.
These spotlights are especially powerful for early career coaches or those new to the community. These sessions show that it’s possible not only to exist, but to thrive as a coach, even in challenging environments.
3. Workshops and Skill-Building
Kaleidoscope, alongside other MRGs, runs workshops roughly once a quarter, addressing topics that are important to community members. For example, the community hosts a ‘Voices of Belonging’ webinar where coaches with diverse sexual identities from different countries will share their perspectives on what it means to be gay or queer-identified in different countries. They will also talk about what it looks like to show up authentically when you don’t control who appears on the other side of the screen.
MRG leaders and group members are instrumental in selecting topics and setting agendas. Past topics have included:
- Coaching through the lens of intersectional identities.
- Understanding the spectrum of sexual and gender identities beyond the acronyms.
- Building skills for allyship, advocacy, and inclusive coaching practice.
How In-Person Community Deepens Inclusive Coaching
Virtual communities make it possible to connect with coaches from around the world when it’s convenient. Meaningful work takes place in online interactions, but there is a little extra magic when conversations happen in-person.
At ICF Converge 2025, we saw this come to life. Coaches shared experiences they had rarely spoken about in professional spaces. The conversations were honest, emotional, and deeply human, creating connections that continued well beyond the event.
If you’re planning to attend this year’s ICF Converge, members of the Kaleidoscope (and all the MRG communities) are ready to greet you and share more about their work.
Join the Kaleidoscope Community
As we move into International Coaching Week and beyond, Kaleidoscope offers more than programming. It offers meaningful connections.
For some, it is a place to be fully seen. For others, it is a place to learn and grow. For all of us, it is a reminder that coaching is strongest when everyone has a place to belong.
